3 Ways to Use Porn as Medicine!

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Pornography use is a controversial topic and one that I have had mixed feelings about over the years.

On one hand, there are certain types of mainstream porn that promote what I consider to be “unhealthy” sexual habits and dynamics. On the other hand, I support sex workers and celebrate human beings having full (consensual) freedom in how they choose to express their sexuality, on or off camera.

 

In my opinion, pornography is not inherently evil, in and of itself.

 

In fact, the use of pornography to stimulate sexual arousal is in fact an ancient and potentially beautiful practice.

In ancient China, couples would begin their ‘date nights’ by flipping through something called “a pillow book”, which was a book of erotic images depicting various sexual acts.

Couples used this book to become mutually aroused, and then had hot Tantric sex for hours….or so they say.

In my opinion, the biggest problem with most porn is not the pornography itself. It is the way in which it is created and used that I find troublesome.

In most mainstream porn, the focus is on the short-lived, climactic male ejaculatory orgasm. i.e. the “cum shot”. From a trained Tantrika’s perspective that in and of itself is deeply problematic. Add to that the unrealistic sexual expectations that are engendered as a result of the visual modeling that porn provides, as well as the propensity for sexual violence which is sometimes encouraged, and you have a recipe for a hot mess.

In the last several years there has been a rise in “feminist porn”, visually erotic porn with a female pleasure centered perspective. This type of pornography prides itself on being produced ethically and mindfully.

 

That’s the piece that is missing for me in most forms of mainstream pornography. Ethical standards and MINDFULNESS.

 

Mindfulness is the secret sauce that when applied, can rapidly transform any mundane activity you are engaging in, into one of sacredness and profundity.

This includes our sexual activity, and even the consumption of porn (and other types of media too!)

 

Here are 3 ways you can begin applying mindfulness to your porn consumption and start using it as a form of enrichment and healing :

 

#1 – Exposure to other types of sex and exploration.

Conscious Porn can be a fabulous and very healthy way to explore fantasies and so-called ‘shameful’ desires. You know those deep dark desires that you think no one else will understand? Well, chances are if you can think of it, there is pornography for it.

In my opinion, most human desires, when properly understood and not distorted by trauma, are natural, healthy and normal.

Given the fact that we live in a very sex-negative culture, it’s important to have a safe venue in which to explore some of these fantasies harmlessly.

That is the beauty of pornography. Other people get paid to act out your deepest, darkest desires- and you get to live them out vicariously, and when using ethically produced porn, there is no harm to self or others.

 

Explore Ethically Produced Porn HERE!
AND HERE!

 

#2 – Explore energy connection.

We are more than just meat bodies walking around. We are the embodiment of consciousness itself, which is essentially energy.

The ability to feel/sense ‘energy’ is built into the human design, and mindfully watching pornography can be an excellent way to study the exchange that happens between people who are really connected, and people who are not.

 

# 3 – Healing sexual shame.

Using porn to explore ‘shameful’ fantasies can be tremendously healing and cathartic. Similar to point number one, using porn in a safe, supportive, non-judgmental environment can give us courage to explore and unlock aspects of ourselves that may have been “frozen” due to cultural or religious shaming.

I share my personal experience of using pornography as medicine to heal sexual shame in a Sex Is Medicine radio show with my wonderful co-host, Ms. Jennifer Elizabeth Masters.

You can tune in to hear more about my sexual healing with porn below!

Reposted from- http://deviwardtantra.com/3-ways-porn-can-be-healing/ 

 

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  1. Hi Devi,

    My good friend, sent me this email. she is doing tibetan tantra with you. i don’t want to mention her name bc i don’t know the privacy on here. i’,m sure it’s cool, but… 🙂

    i’m 64, and didn’t see a man i was attracted to until i was 30. i was at the Y, and it was a clothing-optional locker room there (most guys were naked, and most guys were straight bu i’m sure anyone attracted to men kept it to themselves). i was using the whirlpool, and this light skinned black man, comes in to the whirlpool. at the time i never had looked at a man , like checked out their junk. he had his head down, after both said how ya doing’. the water was very hot there, and you almost had to ease yourself in, 1 step at a time. so he was kinda before me for about 30 seconds, plus or minus. it’s not that he was hung like a porn star, but his penis struck me as gorgeous. ahe was cut, it hung straight down (no hooks or to one side), and he was a flaccid 6″, so no idea what he looked like hard, lol.

    after that i occasionally fantasized about going down on a man. if i masturbated 100 times, one or two of my fantasies would have me going down on a man, but who knows, that could change. i don’t have moral judgments about any of this so it’d be cool to have a relationship, though i’m mostly not looking for that. if he was my type, then i might be smitten. lol. .

    i do want to experience being with a man, but in a present, gentle, communicative space. most gay porn is just rough, and unappealing though nothing against rough, there just isn’t connection, like the type you spoke of in your talk. I’d like to be with an inexperienced where we could help each other experiment in a safe space.

    and so i ask, are there ethical sites that show connected, gentle encounters between or among consenting gay or bi-men? if you or your colleagues know of one or more like that will you or they send me a link. my email is proton email and it is encrypted for privacy.

    loved your talk, and i’d like to be on your podcast announcement lists. in private. i will tell you who my friend is if you want to know, but prob already do, when i said Boston.

    Thanks, peace,
    Danny Fitz
    Boston

    i am writing for a simple reason. i am pretty straight – have loved women since i was about 4. i’m attracted to many women and not always for the usual reason. i love real women, i don’t care about make-up, clothes (though if a woman wants to get dressed stylishly that’s cool), i prefer women in their original bodies, meaning no implants (unless re-construction of course).
    do you or your colleagues

  2. my comment is, i deleted the para beneath my name in a quick edit. don’t know how it’s still there. it was a blah, blah para, so i deleted it; it wasn’t meant to be part of my comment to you.

    ps please forgive my “ee cummings style. it’s just quicker. some people perceive it as disrespectful. hope you don’t bc i have no intention of disrespecting you or most. 🙂

  3. I love porn.
    I love hentai: animated and manga.
    I love JAV.
    While tantric principles have made me more aware of meditative self pleasure and connecting with self…
    I still love porn. >:3

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