Stoking your “Inner Fire” with self-pleasure

self pleasure tips

Self-pleasure tips for your “bliss pearl” (aka clitoral glans = glans of the penis)   “Cultivating the inner fire” is how mindful masturbation is referred to in Tantric Buddhism. Unfortunately the pleasure techniques themselves were lost in translation. That’s why we provide pleasure tips and techniques to help you realize your Buddha nature through shame-free […]

4 major nerve pathways that create vaginal & cervical orgasms

vaginal and cervical orgasms

Did you know that there are 4 major nerve pathways that innervate the pelvis for yoni owners and create both vaginal and cervical orgasms?!  This extensive innervation gives rise to over 15 different types of orgasms! You heard that correctly – 15 different types!  There are 4 major nerve pathways that create vaginal and cervical orgasms. […]

Can porn be part of your healing practice?

conscious porn

In most mainstream porn, the focus is on the short-lived, climactic male ejaculatory orgasm. i.e. the “cum shot”.From a trained Tantrika’s perspective that in and of itself is deeply problematic. Add to that the unrealistic sexual expectations that are engendered due to the visual modeling that most mainstream porn provides, as well as the propensity […]

5 Tips for a Solo Sacred Sexual Healing Session 

solo sacred sexual healing

Let’s talk about solo sacred sexual healing/self-pleasure sessions vs a masturbation session – because there is a huge difference between the two!  Not that there’s anything wrong with regular ole masturbation, but if that’s all you have ever experienced, you are very much missing out on the powerful healing aspects of your solo sexy time.  Solo self-pleasure […]

What’s the difference between sex and intimacy?

Sex and Intimacy

When talking about intimacy for couples, most heterosexual folks immediately think of penetrative intercourse. But sex and intimacy are not necessarily the same thing, and it can be very supportive for couples to know the difference! Intimacy is typically defined as feelings of closeness and connection to another person. Typically, in romantic relationships, INTIMACY is a […]

Tantra Can Heal Toxic Stress for Women of Color

women of color

Earlier this week, one of the most powerful Black women I know (who will also be a guest teacher for our upcoming Tantra Mastery for WOC course), sent me a text about this article: New Study Shows Why Depression in Black Women Is Often Overlooked by Their Doctors The article opens with this truth: Exposure […]

Tantric Tips for Kissing

Have you ever experienced a kiss that made every cell of your body tingle and dance with joy? Thinking back to that moment, what do you notice about your state of mind and body? At that moment when your lips touched and your cells came alive were you; a. feeling disconnected? b. distracted by thoughts? […]

Sex as Self Care: How to Make Pleasure Your Default

sex as self care

Have you ever wondered how to get your sexy back and feel good in the process? Between work, the kids and their activities, and taking care of your aging parents, you fall into bed exhausted every night. You remember a time when sex was the best thing ever, but now, you can take it or […]

People with Vulvas and Vaginas Can Have 15+ Different Types of Orgasm!!

Did you know that people with vulvas and vaginas can have 15+ different types of Bliss consciousness-expanding orgasms? These yummy peaks of pleasure originate from the erogenous zones in which they are felt:   1- Clitoris: Clitoral orgasms are the most commonly experienced type of orgasm. They are short and intense and are often accompanied […]

Avoidance of ANY aspect of our human experience is not the path of Tantra

Once upon a time, we were told by an injured human that sex was bad and should be avoided. We were told that sexual pleasure was bad and would lead us away from our “true nature”.  And we believed that lie and created an entire society around that erroneous belief. But sex is NOT bad, […]