Sexual Desire = The Desire For God

Last week my friend and colleague, Vayne Thomas asked me to do a Facebook Live event to answer the question “Why is the church so horny”? Vayne is the son of a Pastor, and has seen first hand the dilemmas that face many spiritual organizations when sexuality is not consciously integrated into spiritual practice. As […]

Activating Your Sexual Archetypes

Have you ever wondered what your personal archetype is? Archetype is defined as “a recurrent symbol or motif in literature, art, or mythology.” According to Psychotherapist, Carl Golden,  “Carl Gustav Jung, used the concept of archetype in his theory of the human psyche. He believed that universal, mythic characters—archetypes—reside within the collective unconscious of people the […]

3 Differences Between Masturbation and Self-Pleasure

A while back I read an article that described the differences between how men fantasize about cis-gender women masturbating, and how most cis-gender women actually do masturbate. The author (a cis-gender woman) described her masturbation practice as a somewhat haphazard, fast and furtive process. Her description of female masturbation seemed very similar to the way […]

The harmful impact of demonizing male sexuality

We are living in a time of turmoil and change. In the US, the current occupant of the white house is a blustering example of toxic masculinity. Our planet and the occupants of the planet have suffered for thousands of years under a violent patriarchal model of relating to one another and the earth. In […]

Why Shaming Sex Workers Hurts All Women

In North American culture today, it is common to disparage female porn stars and other female/femme sex industry workers as damaged, unintelligent, or amoral. In fact, women are still looked at as less intelligent if we express ourselves sexually. Too often, women who are either sex workers or simply sexually/sensually expressive are painted in a […]