For many people, oral sex can be a deeply intimate experience.
Before my training in Tantra, I usually felt somewhat embarrassed and shameful about receiving oral sex. And I was absolutely mortified at the thought of giving any feedback to my partner about what they were doing right, much less what might feel better.
I also felt shame, embarrassment and insecurity about the way my yoni might taste, look, or smell.
Those feelings of shame and embarrassment are a fairly normal experience for many yoni owners to have, given the shame-based cultural conditioning we receive. Add to that the fact that many yoni lovers haven’t been given much or any instruction in how to pleasure a yoni most optimally, and we have a recipe for much frustration and dissatisfaction.
One key to giving great oral sex lies in understanding female anatomy, and how each piece of the puzzle works together as a whole, to create sensations of epic bliss.
Another key to giving great oral sex lies in communication between the giver and the receiver about what feels most delicious, and what does not.
This is because every body is different, and thought there are general “rules of thumb” to follow, it’s important to not make assumptions based on previous experiences, and that includes previous experiences with the same partner!
The sensitivity of female pleasure zones can change depending on the time of the month, her age, and even through different stages of arousal.
For instance- as the female genitals engorge and fill with blood, different areas of the external clitoris and labia may become more (or sometimes even less) sensitive. This is also true for the pleasure zones located inside the vagina itself.
This is why it’s essential to cultivate an atmosphere of honest, loving feedback in your most intimate relationships. To ensure that both partners feel safe and supported in expressing their pleasure honestly and openly!
Remember sex, including oral sex, is a team sport, and all players need feedback in order to make the right “plays”.