In most mainstream porn, the focus is on the short-lived, climactic male ejaculatory orgasm. i.e. the “cum shot”. From a trained Tantrika’s perspective that in and of itself is deeply problematic. Add to that the unrealistic sexual expectations that are engendered due to the visual modeling that most mainstream porn provides, as well as the propensity for sexual violence which is sometimes encouraged and you have a recipe for a hot mess.
In the last several years there has been a rise in “feminist porn”, visually erotic porn with a female pleasure-centered perspective. This type of pornography prides itself on being produced ethically and mindfully.
That’s the piece that is missing for me in most forms of mainstream porn. Ethical standards and MINDFULNESS.
Mindfulness is the secret sauce that when applied, can rapidly transform any mundane activity you are engaging in, into one of sacredness and profoundity.
This includes our sexual activity and even the consumption of porn (and other types of media too!)
Here are a few suggestions and opinions we have for conscious porn use…
1. In our opinion, pornography is not inherently evil, in and of itself.
In fact, the use of erotic imagery to stimulate sexual arousal is an ancient and potentially beautiful practice.
In ancient China, couples would begin their ‘date nights’ by flipping through a book called “a pillow book”, a book of erotic images depicting various sexual acts.
2. Exposure to other types of sex and exploration.
Conscious porn can be a fabulous and very healthy way to explore fantasies and so-called ‘shameful’ desires. You know those deep dark desires that you think no one else will understand? Well, chances are if you can think of it, there is pornography for it.
3. Explore energy connection.
We are more than just meat bodies walking around. We are the embodiment of consciousness itself, which is essentially energy. The ability to feel/sense ‘energy’ is built into the human design, and mindfully watching pornography can be an excellent way to study the exchange that happens between people who are connected, and people who are not.
4. Heal sexual shame.
Using porn with mindfulness to explore ‘shameful’ fantasies can be tremendously healing and cathartic. Similar to point number two, using porn in a safe, supportive, non-judgmental environment can give us the courage to explore and unlock aspects of ourselves that may have been “frozen” due to cultural or religious shaming.
In our opinion, the biggest problem with most porn is not the erotic imagery itself. It is how porn is created and consumed in modern culture that we find the most problematic. A culture rooted in sexual repression, sexual shame, and patriarchal views of sexuality is bound to produce poison. But, that which can be understood can be transformed and purified, and that is what we celebrate, support, and encourage.
If you enjoy porn, we invite you to experiment with mindfulness and self-connection while viewing. If you have an aversion to porn or even talking about porn, we invite you to experiment with mindfulness and non-judgment while discussing the topic.
Our main goal with all of the information we share is to support you in having a happy, healthy, shame-free, and INFORMED experience of sexuality and pleasure. What works for one does not work for all. We truly want YOU to DO YOU. Unfortunately, the trauma of our cultural conditioning can make it very difficult to hear and listen to that inner voice of wisdom and Tantra is the antidote to trauma.
What do you think about mindfulness, healing and conscious porn use? Let us know in the comment section below!
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One Response
I’ve been utilizing porn in conjunction with Elemental chanting while viewing erotic movies (BlackTouch.com) that depict myself.
I dedicate the merit prior to viewing, during viewing and afterward.
So far it has been beneficial to shift some of the unhelpful aspects that I learned at an early age.