Holding space for your partner

How do you “hold space” for your partner when they are moving through BIG FEELS?

Holding space is an essential part of the tantric healing process for couples. Holding space essentially means providing an open hearted, non-judgmental, loving and safe space for the expression of old pain, trauma, and wounding.

Holding space is natural for us as human beings. We are literally biologically wired for empathy and connection. “Holding space” is simply the practice of being in open, empathic connection with another human being while they move through emotional pain. It’s really quite natural for human beings who have the capacity for empathy. 

Note: BIG red flag if you find yourself in a relationship with someone who does not demonstrate empathy…

Here’s a few key points for “holding space” for your partner(s)…

1. Remember that emotions are “energy in motion” and what’s happening is just old stuck energy that is finally releasing. Chances are the emotions being released have nothing to do with you personally.

2. Focus on your breathing and ground into your body so that you become a solid anchor point for your partner.

3. Offer reassurance by letting them know they are safe to express their feelings and that you love and support them.

4. Check in by asking if they want or need anything – would they like to be hugged and held? Would they NOT like to be hugged or touched? Would they like any water? 

5. Minimize talking on your part. Your job is to literally just BE with your partner – be quiet, be connected, and be supportive.

6. When the emotional storm has passed, check in again about what your partner may need to continue feels safe, comfortable, and supported.

Holding space for healing is a beautiful opportunity to cultivate a more sacred and fulfilling connection with the person and people that you love.

Watch the video below which describes the 4 stages of healing trauma and why you might often feel worse before you feel better…