Sexual energy is quite literally life-force energy! It is the very cause of our existence in human form. All human bodies on this planet originated from some sort of sexual activity.
The Vajrayana Tantric tradition teaches that every orgasm is a glimpse of enlightenment, and the purpose of sexual tantra is to extend that orgasmic state of consciousness from seconds to minutes… to your entire existence.
The concept of orgasm in our culture has been reduced to the equivalent of a genital sneeze. However, the practice of applying non-sexual Tantra to the sexual experience is a way to dissolve these limiting concepts and expand our consciousness for a more enriching and empowering experience.
Sexual energy is POWERFUL. It literally has the power to create LIFE. And, like all things powerful, sexual energy can be harmful or damaging when not engaged appropriately.
Many of us are survivors of sexual violence. It is widely documented that 1 in 3 women has had an experience of sexual violence by the time she is 18. These numbers are higher for trans women and women of color. On average, there are 321,500 victims (age 12 or older) of rape and sexual assault each year in the United States.
The demand for sexual Tantra continues to grow because millions of people are searching for a way to heal sexual trauma. Modern Tantric practices can be an effective tool for identifying, transforming, and overcoming the trauma of sexual violence, caused by ignorance and the belief in separation.
HERE ARE 3 REASONS TO START HEALING SEXUAL TRAUMA WITH TANTRA
1 – A BLOCK IN SEXUALITY IS A BLOCK EVERYWHERE…
Most don’t realize how extensively sexual trauma and repression affects our everyday experience. Any degree of trauma or even harboring negative thoughts around sexual energy and behavior affects our ability to trust and connect with others. On a primitive level, sexual energy is a natural and vital component of our existence; we can’t be separated from it. So feeling sexually disempowered naturally affects our feelings of safety and ability to connect with others.
Ways our Sexual Energy and Expression is Oppressed:
- Slut-shaming
- Harassment (verbal/physical)
- Homophobia
- Judgment
- Religious condemnation
- Forced Monogamy
- Fear mongering with Pregnancy, STI’s
- HELL!
On a biological level, our bodies sustain a level of stress and tension that slowly deprives the tissues of oxygen and energy. When I started practicing Tantra my body and nervous system gradually RELAXED and released a lifetime of tension I was unconsciously harboring in my soma.
At IATE, we’ve worked with many male clients who hold tension in the perineum, have high stress, and PE. It makes sense…tension is a natural stress response; we just need to regain connection, balance, and the ability to fully RELAX into life and pleasure.
Having PE and feeling out of control of your body affects a man’s overall confidence…how he interacts with partners, and how he approaches pleasure and social interactions. Eventually, sexual pleasure morphs into something to be anxious and stressed about rather than excited about.
2 – HEAL THE EPIDEMIC, HEAL THE WORLD
Sexuality is abused and exploited all over the world including in our own homes. Most time the abuse remains unreported and unprocessed, only to take residence in the body as emotional trauma, making us feel tense, and disconnected- hindering sexual function and pleasure.
Sexual repression has a history of being used by the most powerful countries as a means of control.
Stealing sexual expression is a terrorist act meant to break a person’s will and control them. Sometimes the methods are obvious like stoning women for adultery in the Middle East. Sometimes more subtle, like the lack of justice for American women who have been sexually abused or raped leading to a lack of safety.
Ignorance is another major cause of our suffering. The message of “Abstinence or STI” is total bullshit, and reduces sex to a series of life-changing risks. Instead of educating kids on why NOT to do something that’s highly pleasurable and healthy, teach them why sexuality is sacred and vital to their overall health. What about teaching them to seek connection with their partners and how to harness sexual energy for health, instead of wasting it?
Ignorance can spread like wildfire through generations until somebody throws a flag and changes the course.
3 – OPENING THE PORTAL
Sexual Energy is the creative portal from whence we came into existence. Therefore, when we can tap into our own sexual energy, we are “tapping into” the creative energy of our very existence!
Understanding how the Vagus Nerve functions can help us open the portal of our human nervous system. The Vagus nerve is the longest nerve in the human body and runs from the brain to the large intestine. On the way down, it dips its branches into the laryngeal nerve, affecting speech and swallowing. Next, it passes by the heart, lungs, and GI tract, telling them to “chill” and not stress. It’s in charge of our Endocrine system, sensory perception, taste buds, and the ability to “relax & digest.”
Guess where else it goes? The cervix, uterus, and vagina!
Orgasms can be felt by women who’ve had spinal cord injuries, by way of deep vaginal penetration, which stimulates the Vagus nerve.
The function and organization of the Vagus Nerve is solid evidence that sexuality and creative expression are connected…From your verbal expression to your gut to your genitals, it’s all connected by a common thread… and therefore directly affected.
When we learn how to harness sexual energy for our health, pleasure, and spiritual growth, it can no longer used to harm or disempower us.
By working directly on healing sexual trauma, we open the portal to creation itself! Being “sexually liberated” means living without sexual fear, guilt, shame, and judgment. It means doing what feels good to you and your body without shame or guilt. It means you live authentically, with confidence and presence in every moment of your existence.
PRACTICING TANTRA WILL GIVE YOU THE TOOLS TO RECLAIM YOUR FREEDOM OF EXPRESSION, SEXUALITY, AND EXPAND YOUR CONSCIOUSNESS. YOU HAVE THE POTENTIAL TO EXPERIENCE THIS LIFE IN A WHOLE NEW WAY, NOT AS A SPECTATOR, BUT AS A CO-CREATOR.
Want More?
If your heart yearns to support others in healing sexual ignorance and shame, and you have been searching for the right tools and qualified guidance to light the path, we encourage you to join us for the Authentic Tantra Certification program and become part of the new wave of conscious sexuality that is breaking upon the shore of modern society.
