why does my cervix hurt during sex?

Why does my cervix hurt during s*x?

Did you know that as many as 75% of women may experience some type of pain during sexual penetration at some point?

Although there may be numerous physiological causes for vaginal pain, an often overlooked cause of cervical pain is trauma, specifically trauma to the cervix.

“Uncomfortable; Humiliating; Traumatic”… are words patients use too often to describe ordinary pelvic exams.

Most Yoni owners have been making trips to the gynecologist at least once a year since we were 12 or 13 years old. And for most of us, this experience has been uncomfortable and weird at best. For many others, including myself, these visits have been overtly traumatic.

From non-consensual pelvic exams under anesthesia to being used as an “experiment” to demonstrate cervical biopsy procedures to a group of medical students without my consent, my experience with modern gynecology left me with a profoundly traumatized cervix. Luckily Tibetan 5 Element Tantra gave me methods and tools to physically, sexually, emotionally, and psychologically heal from these experiences, and reclaim my cervix as one of my most reliable and accessible pleasure zones.

What’s heartbreaking is the knowledge that not only am I not alone in my experience of being traumatized by what are considered “normal” practices and procedures in Western gynecology, but I now know that this experience is common. And given the number of young women asking us why their cervix hurt during pleasure, sadly this type of trauma appears to be quite normal.

The film “At Your Cervix” explores the lack of consent inherent in the practice of modern Western gynecology. Specifically, “this film explores the little-known unethical practice of conducting non-consensual pelvic exams on unconscious patients and how this practice is the result of our racist, misogynistic, and violent history of gynecology.”

Did you know that 90% of medical students are performing pelvic exams on patients under anesthesia without their consent?

Conversely, did you know that until recently and still today, most OBGYNs don’t recognize the cervix as an orgasm zone?

To put this in perspective, we as women are required to submit our delicate nervous systems and sexual/reproductive systems, every year from the time we are 12, to a penetrative medical procedure that is rooted in a history of racism and sexual violence, while the performers of said procedures are explicitly taught how to perform them on women who are unconscious and who have not consented to this procedure. And, in a medical system that does not recognize my entire sexual organ, including my cervix, as an orgasm zone?

And then we wonder why our cervix is numb or painful during sex?

As I said, there may be numerous other causes for having a painful cervix, and/but given the prevalence of painful sex for women, (75%!!!!!!) this socially normalized practice of sexual trauma must also be included in the conversation.


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